Mailed it
Thursday May 29th 2025, 7:24 pm
Filed under: Knitting a Gift,Life

Finally finished the requested black cap and found a UFO that just needed the ends run in. That one’s Mecha, not Rios, so it’ll be nice and thick for June. Umm. It does get cool in the mountains there at night. And it was a fun hat. She told me yesterday that the only chemo caps she owns are the three she’s gotten from me. So off it goes.

I looked for a small box, struck out, went to the post office and decided to use one of their all-you-can-squish-in ones. It was definitely tight but it would do.

Maybe.

Trying to figure out their origami packaging, I was distracted by a short older guy I hadn’t even seen coming throwing a wad of trash hard at the other end of the table from me, and I thought, well that’s charming; making some employee have to clean up after you? The trash can is right there, dude. But I kept my mouth shut.

His face looked like, Do NOT mess with me. I have had it.

There were three clerks and a long line that did not move, and then #3 went on break. #2 went looking for someone’s stray package in the back. Clerk #1’s customer had a problem that took awhile. None of us were going anywhere anytime soon and #1 had from the time I walked in looked as angry as that guy.

Some minutes later, he suddenly appeared from the back (I’m thinking: he works here?!) and grabbed a package from next to her and threw it through the plastic-strips screen to the bin hidden behind. Hope there was nothing fragile in that.

Breathe. The only person whose behavior in this scene I could change was mine.

So I turned to the guy in a working man’s uniform behind me and asked, Are you in a hurry? You’re welcome to go ahead of me.

He was, actually, and quite grateful at the offer, even if it didn’t seem just then like it would really change a thing. We switched places.

There was one more person behind me: an older dad with a kid of about four with nothing to do. I repeated my offer. He turned me down. I offered him a finger puppet to keep his little guy amused, and it took him a moment but when I said Happy Birthday to make it clear I did not expect it back he decided why not.

Crocodile? He asked me, stating the obvious, I mean, we could quibble alligators vs caimans here but sometimes a finger puppet is just a finger puppet. ( –Oh wait, don’t let the staffs’ bad moods get to me.)

Yes.

The kid soon did what bored kids in strange places whose dads are staring at their phones do, which was to run his new pet up his dad’s leg and try to get his attention.

Clerk #2 returned. The line moved.

Finally I got called over to the one who’d looked so angry earlier. She wasn’t now. I asked for help figuring out that box, pleading bad eyesight re the tiny instructions, but she had a better idea and asked if she could put them in this padded envelope for me?

She didn’t hear me say Sure! so she repeated the question and I was amused at not being the deaf one for a moment there, but she just really thought this was a better idea so we went with it. (Maybe because it wouldn’t pop open if thrown hard, come to think of it.)

You make? She asked brightly, admiring the hats quickly and then looking up into my eyes.

Yes!

Cute! She exclaimed, looking at the address and clearly being glad for the person who was going to get to have not one but two hand knit hats! Made just for her!

She did the usual circling the tracking number on the receipt before handing it to me.

And then she waved me goodbye and wished me a nice day with the biggest, warmest, very real smile on her face, ready for the next person and utterly transformed, and I wasn’t expecting that at all, either.


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It’s clear your politeness and friendliness won her over. She, in turn, helped you out. No unkind words; respect for each other. It goes a long way these days.

We’ve made it a point to befriend our postman. On really hot days, he knows he can ask for cold water anytime. (Just wish I knew his name!)

Comment by Anne 05.30.25 @ 12:02 am

I do find it hard not to be influenced by others’ bad moods in that kind of situation, but you’re right, we can only change how we react! I’m glad you were able to help her turn her mood around by being you.

Comment by ccr in MA 05.30.25 @ 5:00 am

Tomorrow’s torah parsha is Ruth and “chashed”. Acts of human kindness

But you knew that.

Comment by Afton 05.30.25 @ 8:35 am

Ohhhh, to be the recipient of such beautiful caps that keep my head both cool and warm (insulation is a magical thing!) and more importantly the constant recipient of such love and kindness from a soul – my own dear cousin – who epitomizes and lives every day the thing I try and fail sometimes impatiently to do: If you can choose to be anything, choose to be kind. Leading with your heart will never be the wrong choice.

I love this story Alison and I love you. So grateful for your presence in my life

Comment by Janna 05.31.25 @ 4:16 am

What a wonderful turn around for your errand! When my Marine nephew was in Iraq, I mailed cookies every few weeks for many months. Customs forms specify what is in the package and I wrote cookies. After a few weeks, a clerk finally read the form. He smiled and said something about a new postal regulation that required him to taste the cookies. I laughed and promised to bring him a sample next time. Two weeks later a had a few in a baggy and let others ahead, trying to get the same clerk. As I placed my box on the counter, I slid the baggy to him and noted “Per your regulations…” He laughed and told the other 2 clerks. From then on, they all would jockey to be the clerk to get the “required” taste test.

Comment by DebbieR 06.06.25 @ 10:22 pm



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