My cousin Kathryn’s funeral was held today; I watched by Zoom.

Her sister recounted how she always knew everybody’s birthday, always connected with anyone she met, and she had always had a note, a card, a message ready any time for anyone, and added, “And she’s probably sent one to you.”

I realized with a surprised start that that’s exactly what had happened and I felt the truth of it in my bones.

Because yesterday I had reminded myself that the funeral was at noon and Do. Not. Miss. It!

Suddenly, as if in an aside in the middle of an ongoing conversation I felt the words, Remember that’s 11:00 California time.

Whoa. How could I have been so dumb as to forget to notice that, and how had I suddenly remembered in spite of myself?? Because I was sure *I* hadn’t remembered, and yet–yeah, no way was I going to forget now! And I didn’t.

Her sister was right. I would have been devastated to have missed it, especially after not having been able to go in person.

So Kathryn made sure I didn’t.