For naturalizing at home
Tuesday October 15th 2019, 10:07 pm
Filed under: Family,Friends,Garden,Life
The surprise from Afton: a gorgeous Calla lily in memory of my father, for which I am very grateful.

I chuckled over my little sister’s demand on Dad re waiting till after her son’s wedding was over with.

It occurs to me that he’d also waited for my family.

We flew to go see him in April, sure then that it would be our last chance. Even with the oxygen generator that was always attached to him, the ten steps it took him to go from his favorite chair to the kitchen table plunged his oxygen levels down below 80%, even to 70%, and he would shudder working so hard to get air into his lungs.

I was the one close person he knew who had been through oxygen levels like that and knew what it was like–but I’d been in a hospital bed, and I’d had it set off alarms with nurses coming to the rescue. He was doing all this on his own, and upright (getting down as soon as he could), and it was just unfathomable to me how he could do it. There were a number of times I simply held him as he wheezed.

I told him he amazed me. Because he most certainly did.

He spent more time in that chair after we left, and eventually Mom started bringing his meals over there.

I didn’t put it together but I should have: Sam was expecting, Sam was very high risk, and he wanted to see her through it with his prayers added into the mix and he wanted to see pictures of her baby alive and here and well and both of them having made it through. He wanted to be part of that.

And so he quietly held on for them, too.

Dad’s obituary.

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Lovely flower.

What an amazing life! What a generous heart!

I see where you get it from – and your children after you.

Sending warm hugs to you and your family.

Comment by Suzanne in Montreal 10.16.19 @ 5:45 am

I am glad he was able to know that Sam made it through.

Comment by ccr in MA 10.17.19 @ 8:36 am

And for all her life, Lily will be able to say she and her great grandpa breathed the planet’s air together.

Comment by twinsetellen 10.17.19 @ 11:03 pm

I am so sorry for your loss, but so happy for all the good memories. I lost my dad in August this year, and although he hadn’t been himself for a few months, the pain is still acute. Happy memories are the best medicine and the best memorial. You are in my prayers

Comment by Kathleen 10.22.19 @ 8:00 am

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