Brian’s home
Wednesday September 18th 2013, 10:28 pm
Filed under: Friends,History,Life

Brian Holloway, whose name will probably be familiar to people who follow football, had a locker just a ways down from mine in high school and was close friends with my friend Brad (the friend who posted notice of Steve’s passing.)  Between them and their little brothers a grade younger, they set the tone for the jocks in the school: be good to other people. Be proud of their accomplishments (missed the state football championship by one game) but not too full of themselves. The stupid drunk partying thing? Not cool around the captain of the team and his buddy.

Every high school should have jocks like that (said the emphatically-not-a-jock). I don’t remember a lot of details about Brian but I do remember that our class was fortunate he was in it; he was just a really nice guy who made the world better around him.

To whom this just happened.  (Updated link here.)

Over twenty thousand dollars in damage to his house, stupid teens tweeting their own little reality show while Brian read their posts from far away, incredulous. The rampaging mob, hundreds of them, stole, drugged, drank, peed, broke, shattered, vandalized, graffittied, all the while publicly glorying to each other in their destruction.

And his response?

To hope to rescue those kids from the tragedy of the trajectories they’d just sent themselves on.  To hold them accountable for the sakes of their own souls while telling them here was his website and here was their chance: own up. Come clean. Don’t stay in that horrible hole forever where it will only get worse if they let bad decisions compound bad decisions and flood out their futures. And don’t think you can duck out if you don’t do it–we know.  He offered them something priceless: take responsibility and by so doing begin to reclaim yourselves. Come help me get the place ready for a picnic for military personnel.

Other teens who had had nothing to do with that night showed up too after they heard: to help clean up the terrible mess in shame for what their peers had done and to offer solidarity to a family who had done nothing to deserve this.

And that is a gift they gave themselves as well as the Holloways, forever.


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That story is all over our newspapers because his home is only a short distance from where I live. Brian Holloway really is one of the “nice guys”! When I worked as a jeweler he was my customer and we made a deal. I paid for his repair in exchange for his autograph on a football so I could give it to my uncle, who was a semi-pro football player, for his birthday. My uncle has since passed away and now I am the proud owner of that football! I sure hope those kids take him up on the opportunity to do the right thing!

Comment by Jody 09.19.13 @ 5:35 am

My husband was sick when he heard what had happened on ESPN. I think he will be pleased to hear his response.

Comment by Afton 09.19.13 @ 6:22 am

Not the usual response, but so much better.

Comment by Sherry in Idaho 09.19.13 @ 8:28 am

What a horrible thing to have happened! Yet, I believe Brian’s response is the correct one. Get them pointed in the right direction instead of simply punishing them. A man after my own heart!

Comment by Donald Meyer 09.19.13 @ 9:12 am

Talk about a class act. The world needs more Brians and the kids who had nothing to do with that night but came to help clean up anyway.

Comment by Channon 09.19.13 @ 10:13 am



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