Have half
Tuesday December 16th 2008, 6:37 pm
Filed under: Family,Friends,Life

Channon’s comment sparked this one.  She and I wrote back and forth, with me going, eh, who wants to hear more about lupus, and her encouraging me to go ahead even when I said I can’t skip that part, it’s integral to the story. So here goes.

When it was first diagnosed, my kids were 2, 4, 6, and 8, and barely that.  I found myself suddenly being told I was not to go in the sun anymore.  Right. Like how am I supposed to adhere to THAT forevermore!?  Besides, I’m an outdoors type.

My arthritis was severe enough then (it isn’t now) that they tested me for Rheumatoid, and throw in this, that, and the other, and I was just plain having a hard time.  Not to mention, my mom’s cousin had died of lupus a week before her wedding date.  Cheers.

So.  Richard decided he needed to do something about all that. The lupus he couldn’t fix.  (The Crohn’s later was LE cells branching out.)  He wanted to cheer me up.  So he called a number of our friends and they all threw me a surprise half birthday party.

When they all yelled, “SURPRISE!” I was going, What?  What is this? A surprise party? But this is June!  My birthday’s in December!… Huh?  Well, oookay.  Chocolate and friends, who’s complaining.

There was a cake: half a 13×9 sheet cake, baked and artfully decorated by our friend LaRee with the words




on it going down the cake.  Which was dark chocolate.  Yum.  And a very good time was had by all, with much laughter.  My husband’s a genius.

Turns out, LaRee had had the same initial reaction to Richard’s proposal but had been perfectly willing to go along with it, and hey, let’s party!

So, months later, it was going to be LaRee’s birthday.  I found out.  My chocolate torte (recipe in the comments here) was already well on its way to what it is now and I decided to bake her one, dark chocolate ganache on a nearly-flourless cake.  But I’m no good at writing with a tube, so when I surprised her with it, I gave her a card instead, with the inscription:

“Hap Birt Ali,” she said.  Happy birthday to you, too, she re-torted.

(And you know?  Somehow we all muddled through just fine.  And life is very good.)

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Yep. Your husband is a genius all right. The cakes you’re describing are the very best. Jim & I used to make happy birthday cakes for a friend and write his age on it in binary. To other people it looked like… what is that!? Not to Paul, though.

Comment by RobinM 12.16.08 @ 7:18 pm

I found out on Sunday that the SilverFox in my SS class is a techno geek who spoke “ancient languages”. I asked, “Oh, you mean like COBOL, FORTRAN, and PL-1?” If we ever grow the friendship to the point that I am making a birthday cake for him, age-in-binary would be a brilliant touch!

Comment by Lynn 12.16.08 @ 9:30 pm

Sounds like your hubby is a keeper:)Hugs Darcy

Comment by Darcy 12.17.08 @ 5:58 am

Yes you do have the very best husband.
Love that cake story!!!!

Comment by karin 12.17.08 @ 6:26 am

He is a real gem. He must have been scared in those early days. It is wonderful that he found ways to encourage and support you.

Comment by sonya 12.17.08 @ 6:46 am

Beautiful! But I’m not sure rewarding my polite nagging is wise… 😉

And three cheers for Richard!

Comment by Channon 12.17.08 @ 7:38 am

Halfy birthdays are a good thing! (We celebrate them around here, song and all: “halfy birthday to you…”) I love that Richard found a way to celebrate what there was to celebrate during a difficult time 🙂

Comment by Jocelyn 12.17.08 @ 10:07 am

How fun! Gosh, could you have even imagined at that party, during such a difficult time, that you would one day be delighting so many people with that story?

Comment by LynnM 12.17.08 @ 1:49 pm

Aw such a great story. Yup, your husband has proved himself, once again, a keeper. 😉 My Birthday’s June, so I guess it’s my half birthday month.

Comment by Alicia 12.17.08 @ 2:25 pm

Half birthday! Love it! Just might steal it.

Comment by Carol 12.17.08 @ 2:51 pm

Retorted. Groan… 😉

When I was growing up, we always had half-birthdays with half a cake and a small present. It was awesome. Your hubby is indeed a genius!

Comment by Lene 12.18.08 @ 10:27 am

What a lovely story! And what a fabulous way to react to such a time – throwing a party. I like his style!

Comment by Anna 12.20.08 @ 2:49 pm

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