It’s the little things
Sunday September 14th 2008, 5:32 pm
Filed under: Family,Life

(Background: a brushed baby alpaca triangle shawl gifted to me by Laura in Alameda that I like to wrap around me when it gets cool in the eveningsbrushed baby alpaca shawl by Laura. Thank you, Laura.)

It was eight years ago that we got the call that woke us up on a chilly early Sunday morning, Thanksgiving week.  Long expected.  It had been eight years since my husband’s older sister had been told on her 40th birthday that she had non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma and that it was metastasized.

The last time Cheryl had been well enough to run around and do errands like anybody else while we were visiting, and we then having teenage daughters, we stopped in at a little shop in some mall that sold all kinds of girly frills and hair doodads.  Where, among a few other things, I happened to buy a threesome of hairbands.

One went off to college with my girls.  One, nobody remembers just when it disappeared.  And the last, the plastic well aged by now but still holding up, in a color to go with the auburn my hair had mostly still been when I’d bought it, perfectly comfortable on my head and a remembrance of Cheryl that I wanted to keep close, I took careful care of, knowing I could never replace it.

But this summer it vanished anyway, and it bothered me more than I thought it should.  No little piece of plastic will ever make any real difference re my memories of Jessie‘s mom.  And yet.

So, go buy another one! Easier said than found. Why do so many of them try to be head tourniquets?  Part of me hung on to the instinctive response of a small child, of, But I want MY headband, not some other one.

Fast forward to two days ago.  It had been carefully wrapped and super-cushioned so as not to be broken by airport workers rifling through my luggage.  I was planning well ahead for my upcoming Stitches East trip, and there it was, safe and sound.  Next time, I’m going to wear it on my head on the plane: I found it! I found it!

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I’m glad you found your headband! 🙂
We were on our annual trip the apple orchard this afternoon & I remembered you & your Spencer apple story. No Spencers but we had a lovely day.

Comment by Toni Smoky-Mountains 09.14.08 @ 6:31 pm

Glad you found the headband. Wear it with joy!

Comment by Joansie 09.14.08 @ 7:38 pm

Yeah. Now the real dilemma: wear it and risk it wearing out/breaking or put under glass to only gaze at.

Comment by Ruth 09.14.08 @ 8:06 pm

Right on. Who designs these things? Especially for those of us wearing glasses, the perfect fitting hairband is elusive. Glad you found yours.

Comment by Channon 09.15.08 @ 7:38 am

I’ll be lookin’ for you wearin’ it with bells on at Stitches East!

Comment by Lisa 09.15.08 @ 6:10 pm

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