Wednesday June 18th 2008, 10:11 am
Filed under: "Wrapped in Comfort",Friends,Life

I wrote this a few days ago, and waited permission to post it:

We went to a celebration tonight, one like no other I have been to. She’d told me, when she’d called, that she wanted to “take a page from your book,” but she wrote her own here and I love her penmanship on the page of our lives that was written tonight.

After my hospitalization, I’d thanked my doctors and nurses individually, with knitting. She brought hers home en masse.

Marguerite\'s Ann Arbor shawl

Marguerite had invited her medical team and just a very few close friends who had played roles in supporting her in her ordeal to come to her home as the time of her treatments came to an end. This was for the doctors, the nurses, the woman at the clinic who scheduled her appointments: she felt she owed much. She wanted to give back. She wanted to thank each of us for playing a role in sustaining and affirming her life in the face of her cancer, to have us celebrate with her her last week of radiation. Her teenage son snapped pictures of the small crowd, keeping record.

She didn’t speak very long, just a few words that said much; she let the music, and the very act of playing it, convey the rest of it for her. Her husband Russ was on his grand piano and two friends and one of her doctors joined in with their own instruments. Joyful music, lively music, a touch of jazz here, of Bach there, music that acknowledged the grief, music that returned to the underlying joy. Music that showed life honestly and in true celebration.

I can’t tell you how much it meant to me. To life!

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Marguerite’s shawl is simply beautiful! I could almost hear the music of the gathering from your description. Thank you for the peek inside. 🙂

Comment by Toni Smoky-Mountains 06.18.08 @ 10:24 am

Thank you! I told Marguerite I had changed the yoke pattern to fern lace because ferns were some of the earliest plants on the planet: delicate and beautiful, and strong enough to survive all things. They are a symbol in many cultures of shelter and love.

Comment by AlisonH 06.18.08 @ 11:07 am

Perfect…simply Perfect….on all counts!
What a lovely way to celebrate LIFE!
Gave me chills….in a good way!
Love & Light all around!

Comment by Sheila E 06.18.08 @ 11:12 am

That is what we all should do. Have a celebration with loved ones and friends while you can enjoy it. Sounds like a wonderful evening.

Comment by Sonya 06.18.08 @ 3:42 pm

What a beautiful way to say thank you.

Comment by Amanda 06.18.08 @ 4:04 pm

how awe inspiring, and the shawl is exquisite

Comment by grace 06.18.08 @ 5:02 pm

How wonderful. 🙂 And the shawl is lovely!

Comment by Romi 06.18.08 @ 8:34 pm

Your posts are always filled with so much joy and kindness and beauty!

Comment by Lynn 06.19.08 @ 12:26 am

“Your posts are always filled with so much joy and kindness and beauty!”
Lynn at 12:26 am…I couldnt have said it better!!
Alison: You are the most beautiful person I have had the pleasure of reading, please continue sharing your life with us so that we may learn to be as generous and loving as you!

Comment by Danielle from SW MO 06.19.08 @ 5:11 am

Very affirming. Your posts always renew my faith in humans.

Comment by Channon 06.19.08 @ 5:58 am

how sweet! thank you so much for sharing. as always, your writing strikes a chord within me…

Comment by marti 06.19.08 @ 7:19 am

The shawl is beyond beautiful and so was the story of the celebration. Thank you for that.

Comment by Lene 06.20.08 @ 7:36 pm

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