When we moved here, we had a woman next door, also new to the neighborhood, who had had a lot thrown at her of late and kept to herself. We went out of our way to smile and wave hi when we saw her, and gradually Sandy thawed; eventually we would become great friends.
Our last Halloween in New Hampshire, our oldest had shrieked in fear every time I opened the door no matter how much I tried to explain that those were children in costumes just like her. Our first Halloween in California, she looked out the window next to the door in great excitement and said to her toddler brother, Here come trick or treaters! Let’s be scared!
It was a few years later. The kids had so been looking forward to the day. But on the worst morning it could possibly have been, they (and I don’t know how many of their friends at school) were all down with stomach flu and there was absolutely no way.
Meantime, Sandy had decided she wanted to convey just how much she enjoyed our little kids and had driven to the local Mrs. See’s chocolate shop: she had bought a cute little cardboard haunted house filled with candies for each of our kids. Just our kids. She was going to exclaim over their costumes and tell them how cute they were.
She had waited in great anticipation for that doorbell to ring, and waited…and waited…and ours hadn’t come.
The next morning she saw me and asked why not. I told her about the kids being sick.
She confessed what she’d done and brought over the four little haunted houses with a fervent get well soon wish.
And that is one of the first memories I told Sandy’s daughter the day she rang the doorbell to let me know her mom was gone.
Halloween will always remind me of a neighbor we were so lucky to have.